Taking time to be grateful today.
Thank you for reading my content and for subscribing to this blog! I believe that I can use this platform to show how wonderful life can be when we take time to look and reflect on the moments that make up our lives. Thanksgiving… this weekend…this day, is a big moment. You are alive!
Reflecting today on what I have been given, one thing jumps out. My mom has worked so hard to provide the lifestyle she wanted to live for her children, her family and her own soul. My mom’s story is below:
“One of my dear friends sent me a copy of this picture with the quote below, to inspire me while I was still working at my full time job, hustling my side-gig evenings and weekends to gain back TIME FREEDOM in my life!!! “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma-which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
I printed a small version of this, with the quote, that I hung in my office beside my computer. I looked at his face and read that quote EVERY SINGLE DAY. I stayed hungry and motivated by the LIFE I was determined to create for myself, my family and as many awesome people as I could support as possible-who were looking to create change too…to “stop wasting their time living someone else’s life!” No coincidence that THE DAY I randomly see this giant sized picture hanging in a hotel on my way to visit a friend – I happen to be wearing the classic Steve Jobs attire – black turtleneck. An inspiration, even after he is gone!!! I meet so many people who want MORE for themselves but they’re so STUCK in their own FEAR! Letting the ‘noise of others’ opinions drown out their own inner voice.’ It actually breaks my heart – because time IS limited and we need more people who have the courage to follow their heart and intuition. So grateful I followed mine-even when it arrived in a very different package than I thought-it has lead me to the life I dreamed of. I am committed to supporting as many people as I possibly can in this lifetime to help live their version of life by design! Because every minute of the hustle and pushing through the fear to live a life of PROGRESS on your terms is BEYOND worth it!!!” – Kim MacGregor
I am grateful for my mother’s example. Thankful for what she has given me and our entire family.
Thankful for you!
My mom was an actress and model. At the age of 17, she was told many rejections. Below, is from her post from instagram.
Photo from my mom’s first photoshoot.
“#tbt to when I was 17 and did my first “photo” shoot in Toronto with a friend who was interested in photography ? I didn’t wear a stitch of makeup ? and totally pieced this outfit together with clothes from both my mom’s closest and my own.
This pic launched a 20 year modelling career (up until that point I had only done acting), which gave me money to pay my way through university. Crazy to think that today I am Momma to three daughters who are all in and around this age! ???#timeslowdown
During my modelling years countless people had things to say about what I looked like and how I should change to “conform” to the market. “My eyebrows were too dark, my eyebrows were too thick, my hair was too long…and on and on and on.” I remember an inner TUG to stay true to who I was, even if it was “different” than every other person, even if I was “criticized” for it. Even when I heard words that stung! ?IT worked! I worked! A LOT actually! It taught me a valuable lesson early on, about honouring myself, and not allowing the “noise” from others to drown out my inner voice. I Learned that I would never be right for everyone (or every job) but I was right for “some” and that was all I needed.
In this world of glamour, conformity and beauty and everything in our faces on social media every single day – remember YOU are uniquely AMAZING. Stay true to yourself. Don’t compare – there is NO OTHER person just like you THANK GOODNESS – your differences are actually what make you so interesting❤️ I’ve never done things like everyone else, and as a result, I’ve taken judgement and criticism at times, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. It’s made me stronger in my convictions?? and solidified my reasons for doing things ? (NOT to please others). Through lots of rejection, ups and downs and second-guessing, I’ve built strong resilience muscles and lead a life well-lived! ??❤️ ”
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Be true to you!
P.S more inspiration from my mom is available here
Centered. Open. Aware. Connected. And able to Hold whatever is there…
Madison aged 14 in this picture
That is the meditation I listen to one or more times a week. It helps me stay present and more importantly, deal with anxiety. When I started high school, as a young fourteen year old, bright eyed and excited to start my education, I noticed that often students looked down. Either on our phones or avoiding interaction.
Now, as an “adult” (weird…) I see that we avoid interaction or look at our phones just as much as we did in high school. As the meditation says, to stay open and aware is a gift. To actually notice if someone got a new hair-do, or that they are a kind person is incredible.
Connecting with another person puts you in a vulnerable place. Making conversation can be painful, but it is far less painful than the regret of not speaking up. Who knows what you will learn or discover? When I am talking to someone, I am now trying to be mindful of what I can give or contribute to the conversation. Then it becomes about what we can give.
As an 18 year old, I am learning this. That giving is important. That if we are anxious, thinking about what we can give can make us realize what we have. That we have worth, value and so much more to offer another person than we may think- the most simplest (and scariest) to offer a friend, family member or co-worker is love and connection: an open mind, to be centered open aware connected and able to hold whatever is there.
“Run your own race.”
Madison aged 10 with her 5th Grade 1st Place Cross-Country Ribbon
This past (Canadian) Thanksgiving weekend my sisters and I decided to go for a run (something we never do). I tied up my shoes, walked out the door, and found myself exhausted at the first thirty seconds (of what would be 10 minutes) of running. Elle, my younger sister, was ahead of Ava, my other sister. (Ava and Elle are twins). I was running and felt tired. “Why am I so tired?” I asked myself privately…. aside from the fact that I was running, something else was weighing me down. “Alright Mads, pace yourself, take your time,” I said, as Elle got further and further ahead of me.
I was comparing this run to my cross-country running experiences from grade five to grade eight. I had trained multiple times a week and was winning 1st, 2nd and even 13th place at school events. “Why am I so slow?” I thought again. Then, as I turned a corner on our street, the phrase “Run your own race” popped into my mind.
I stopped focusing on Elle and instead on the finish line ahead. This time, when Elle passed me, I stayed my course. I focused on the stop sign ahead. I ran harder than ever and almost caught up to Elle.
Beating Elle wasn’t my goal anymore, it was to now run my own race.
After a great response on my last blog (link here)I feared the next one. “Will it be good enough? How could I beat that?”
I wanted to hide and make sure nothing else got out that wasn’t at that caliber…..
I was scared and I wanted to play it safe.
Just so you know: playing it safe is what feels natural. It comes from that part of our brain that wants safety and certainty (that part of our brain is called the amygdala – you can learn more about how it works here in Seth Godin’s blog).
Ironically, what I actually need to be doing is work that is unsafe and uncertain, with no guarantee for success. Playing it unsafe is about leaving all possible places to hide and exploring the unfamiliar place of unsafe, uncertain and completely unprotected.
That place feels scary….but we need to be there in order to discover the thrill of doing the stuff we need (and deep down actually want) to be doing. Because there, and only there, will we really know what we are capable of.
Are you feeling the fear and choosing to do it anyway?
I hope you had a great Thursday,
Lots of Love,